In the last post, Build A Resilient Spirit to Overcome Adversity, we described how to build a resilient spirit to overcome adversity. Today we are going to talk about building resilience so that we can overcome any challenge.
Here is a list of some of the things that can keep us mentally weak and stop us from building resilience.
Being Stuck in the Past
You will not be able to recover from a setback when you keep thinking about mistakes in the past.
In fact, you may be hurt, which is a normal way to feel under the circumstances.
You have probably devoted a lot of time, energy, and even money to a business or relationship.
When they fail it feels like it was all unimportant. Yes, it is painful. Still, you need to be able to move on.
Moving on is the only right choice you can make out of the many different options you might have available to you.
Other choices will only make you stay attached to something that is gone forever. Your ex may be gone or they might come back.
However, that should not be an objective for you right now. You will only stay angry which will stir up negative emotions when you keep trying to reconcile with your ex.
This is especially a problem if they aren’t interested in being with you. You can’t force people to stay.
If they are not interested in you anymore, you are going to have to move on with your life.
For example, if JK Rowling had wallowed in misery over her divorce it is possible that the Harry Potter books would never have been written.
She is an example of someone who had a major challenge in her life and was able to find a way of building resilience and as a result, became a successful author.
Don’t be Pessimistic About the Future
If you are one of those people who look at the future and only see doom and gloom you will not be resilient to challenges.
In fact, you will most likely want to crawl into your shell and contemplate the past because you don’t see any hope for the future.
There is no rule that says the remainder of your life cannot be better than all you have achieved so far. It is just not time to tell your life story.
People who are early bloomers can struggle when they encounter major setbacks.
That is because they are afraid that they won’t be able to achieve success again.
There are people who feel they were too quick to fulfill their potentials and as a result have nothing left to give. This is just not true.
As long as you keep looking for ways to better yourself, you will always be able to surpass your achievements.
Do You Have Weak Self-Efficacy?
People who lack resilience do not believe in their capability to succeed after a setback.
Often it is a long road back to improvement, especially when we face tough times because of something that we did wrong.
However, we can rewrite history but taking new steps towards our goals.
When we don’t give up on ourselves, we can move forward to something better.
Remember Colonel Sander’s story? It is never too late to start over and it is never too late to make changes that can lead you to success.
You might not get people to give you a second chance, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on yourself.
Perhaps you get written off by family and friends. What is important is that you don’t give up on yourself.
If you keep doing what you need to do to be successful, your critics and doubters might see you in a different light.
That might not happen. But nevertheless, as long as you believe in yourself and your abilities, you have a much better chance of meeting your goals.
Lacking the Right Relationships
It is true that it is much easier to bounce back from difficulty when you have the right people supporting you.
Admittedly, having determination is a vital ingredient that can help a person stand their ground even when faced with strong opposition.
However, you also need your loved ones with you.
Just remember that it is easier to believe you can get through challenging times when you have people around you who offer encouragement and support.
We can’t deny that support from friends and families isn’t important. It can be crushing to see that you have no one by your side with you are facing a challenge.
You may feel rejected and lonely which is going to make it very difficult for you to be able to find a way of building resilience.
The people in our lives give us the strength we need to overcome difficult situations.
When the people we care about end up turning their backs on us we are going to struggle. However, having sincere relationships can see us through.
Having a Lack of Focus
Keeping focused during hard times is easier said than done. Nevertheless, you will need it to find your way out of an emotional mess if you want to recover.
One thing you might consider doing for yourself and take some time and find a distraction-free place to create a new plan of action.
One of the best ways of maintaining your focus is to set new goals.
Goals give us a sense of purpose as well as direction.
It is important to understand that setting a new goal isn’t just about writing out the things you want to achieve.
Rather, it is important to understand there are skills you may need to learn that can make your process successful.
Your goals will need to be specific and measurable. As well, they should be relevant to you, they need to be achievable, and within a certain timeframe.
Once your goals include these qualities, you will be on the right path.
Let Go of Comparison
When you try to compare yourself to other people who you feel are better than you, you set yourself up to fail.
When you compare yourself with people that you perceive are below your level, you also set yourself up to fail.
Neither form of these comparisons is healthy.
In fact, any type of comparison to other people hinders you from being able of building resilience.
The Superpower of Resilience Video:
Nobody wants to be seen as mentally weak, in fact, we all want to be resilient and overcome any challenge. However, this doesn’t always happen.
We may find that there are barriers to building resilience that can stop our success.
When we are committed to finding how to overcome those barriers, we are more apt to be able to move forward after a setback.
As a result, we have a much better chance of finding success.
